Psychological and emotional abuse: Know the signs
Psychological and emotional abuse can be harder to see than physical violence, but it’s just as damaging. It chips away at your confidence, safety and sense of self. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone — and support is available.
Recognising psychological and emotional abuse
Psychological and emotional abuse is when a partner, ex-partner or family member says or does things that leave you feeling controlled, isolated, confused or scared. It isn’t physical, but it can be just as traumatic. Over time, it can wear down your confidence and make you doubt your own judgement. This might include being humiliated in front of others, blamed for things that aren’t your fault, given the silent treatment, or gaslighted — lied to so you question your own memory and perception.
Equation runs training for professionals who want to understand these patterns and support people affected by them.
Common signs of
psychological and emotional abuse
If someone is using psychological or emotional abuse, you might recognise some of these patterns. They’re rarely one-off moments — abuse tends to build gradually, so it can be hard to name what’s happening while you’re in it. Trust your instincts. If something feels wrong, it’s worth talking to someone you trust or reaching out for support.
- Humiliating you or putting you down in front of other people.
- Making you feel like everything that goes wrong is your fault.
- Calling you names or mocking the things that matter most to you.
- Giving you the silent treatment to punish you or gain control.
- Gaslighting you — lying so you question your own memory and judgement.
- Threatening to leave, hurt themselves, or hurt someone you love.
Next steps for support and awareness
Whether you’re curious to learn more about abuse, recognise these behaviours in your own relationship, or want to support someone else, we can help you find your next step. Browse below to find training, signs of abuse, or ways to get in touch — whatever feels right for you.
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Find the right support for you
Whatever you’re going through, you don’t have to face it alone. Explore practical information about psychological and emotional abuse, ways to get support, and how Equation can help — whether you’re worried about yourself or someone you care about.
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- Specialist help, whenever you’re ready.
Is this happening to me?
If you feel controlled, confused, or scared in your relationship, that’s worth paying attention to. You know your relationship better than anyone else.
Supporting someone else
Noticing the signs in someone you care about can be worrying. Listen without judgement, believe them, and let them know support is available whenever they’re ready.
Getting in touch with Equation
We’re here Monday to Friday, 9.30am to 4.30pm excluding bank holidays (7.30pm on Wednesdays) – 24/7 confidential answerphone available outside these times. Men’s helpline: 0800 9956 999. LGBT+ helpline: 03300 880787. You can also self-refer online using the form below.
Referring someone into our service
Professionals, friends, or family members can refer someone into Equation’s support services too — with the person’s knowledge and consent wherever possible. Contact us to find out how.
Submit a referral
If you’re experiencing abuse, whether emotional or another form, we’re here to help. Our team offers confidential support, with no pressure or judgement. If you’re feeling unsure, you don’t need all the answers, just reach out, and we can start with an informal chat.
Support for men
helpline@equation.org.uk
Support for men
0800 995 6999
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LGBTQ@equation.org.uk
LGBTQ+ support
03300 880787
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Many people find it hard to reach out, and that’s okay. Help is here whenever you’re ready. Our team listens, whatever you share, by any method that feels right.
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