Sexual abuse: Understanding, recognising, and getting support
Sexual abuse is any unwanted sexual act you have not agreed to, or cannot agree to. It’s never your fault, and you’re not alone. This page explains what sexual abuse can look like, the signs to watch for, and how to get confidential support.
Understanding what sexual abuse means
Sexual abuse is any sexual act or activity you haven’t agreed to, or couldn’t agree to freely. Consent means choosing, with the freedom and ability to choose. Sexual abuse includes rape, sexual assault, and image-based sexual abuse, such as someone sharing intimate images without your permission. It can happen once, or as part of an ongoing pattern within a relationship. It can happen to anyone, regardless of gender, age, or relationship type. Whatever happened, and whoever caused it, the responsibility always lies with the person who caused the harm — never with you.
Signs of sexual abuse
Sexual abuse isn’t always obvious, and it doesn’t always involve physical force. It can involve pressure, manipulation, or fear. You might notice changes in how you feel about yourself, your body, or your relationships. Trust your instincts — if something feels wrong, it’s worth talking to someone you trust or reaching out for support.
- Being pressured, guilt-tripped, or manipulated into sexual activity you didn’t want.
- Feeling unable to say no, or fearing what might happen if you do.
- Someone sharing or threatening to share intimate images of you without consent.
- Feeling confused, ashamed, or like what happened “doesn’t count” as abuse.
Next steps for support and awareness
Whether you’re curious to learn more about abuse, recognise these behaviours in your own relationship, or want to support someone else, we can help you find your next step. Browse below to find training, signs of abuse, or ways to get in touch — whatever feels right for you.
Get immediate support
If you or someone else needs support: We’re here Monday to Friday, 9.30am to 4.30pm excluding bank holidays (7.30pm on Wednesdays) – 24/7 confidential answerphone available outside these times.
Download safety resources
Download resources designed to help survivors and the people who support them.
Learn about other abuse types
Sexual abuse rarely happens on its own. Explore Physical abuse, emotional abuse and other forms of domestic abuse to see the fuller picture.
Understand your legal options
Wondering what protection is available? From key terms, to the Domestic Abuse Act, we can help you understand your rights and the routes to safety.
Professional guidance and training
We deliver training for professionals and communities, in person and online, to help you spot the signs and respond confidently.
Shop materials and resources
Browse our activity booklets and safety resources, designed to support healthy relationships, safety planning and awareness, for individuals, families and professionals.
Reaching out to Equation for support
Whatever you’re going through, you don’t have to face it alone. Equation can support you — whether you’re ready to talk now or just want to learn more first. We can connect you with medical professionals, provide advocacy support, or simply listen. There’s no pressure, and no judgement.
Do I have to report
No. It’s entirely your choice whether to report to the police. Equation can support you either way, and help you understand your options without pressure.
It happened a while ago
There’s no time limit on getting support. Whether it happened recently or years ago, you can still reach out and talk to someone about how you’re feeling.
Not sure if it’s abuse
You don’t need to have all the answers, or use a particular label, before reaching out. If something felt wrong or unwanted, it’s worth talking to someone.
Supporting someone you care about
If someone you care about has experienced sexual abuse, listen without judgement, believe them, and let them make their own choices about what happens next.
Get in touch
If you’re experiencing abuse from a partner, ex or family member, whether it is sexual or another form, we’re here to help. Our team offers confidential support, with no pressure or judgement. If you’re feeling unsure, you don’t need all the answers, just reach out, and we can start with an informal chat.
Support for men
helpline@equation.org.uk
Support for men
0800 995 6999
LGBTQ+ support
LGBTQ@equation.org.uk
LGBTQ+ support
03300 880787
Still not sure about making a referral?
Many people find it hard to reach out, and that’s okay. Help is here whenever you’re ready. Our team listens, whatever you share, by any method that feels right.
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