I need help
Whatever you’re going through, you don’t have to face it alone. Equation is here to listen, believe you, and help you find a safe way forward, at your own pace. What you share with us stays confidential, and you can stay anonymous if that feels safer.
Request assistance confidentially
Whether it’s for you or someone else, we’re here to help. We support men and LGBTQ+ people across Nottingham and Nottinghamshire affected by domestic abuse or sexual violence.
We don’t offer direct support for women, but Juno Women’s Aid does – visit junowomensaid.org.uk for help.
- You lead the conversation — helpline support is led by you.
- The advisor will listen and never judge you.
Still not sure about reaching out?
If you’re planning to leave, we can help you do this safely. If you’re not ready yet, we can help you keep yourself, your children, and even your pets safe.
Complete the form below for help and support
We aim to contact you within 1-2 business days
What happens next?
Reaching out can feel like a big step, and we want you to know what to expect. Once you’re in touch, a member of our team will get back to you in the way you’ve asked. You’ll be listened to, never judged, and offered support that feels right for you.
- You choose how and when we contact you.
- You can change your mind at any time.
Confirmation email
For safety, we won’t send a confirmation email. Instead, a thank you page will load once you’ve submitted. Need us sooner? Call our men’s helpline 0800 995 6999, or our LGBTQ+ helpline 03300 880787. We’re here Monday to Friday, 9.30am to 4.30pm (7.30pm Wednesdays) – 24/7 answerphone outside these times.
Your enquiry has been received
A member of our team reads every message and matches you with the right support. They’ll get in touch the way you’ve asked, usually within 1–2 working days.
Contact from a support worker
We’ll get in touch using the safe time and method you’ve told us works best.
Planning your next steps, together
From there, it’s entirely up to you. What you share, the decisions you make, and the support you accept — it’s all truly your choice. There’s no pressure, no rush, and no judgement. You’re always in control, and we’ll only ever move at the pace that feels right for you.
If you’re in immediate danger
Call 999 to contact the police — this is available any time and always free. Their first priority is keeping you and your children safe. They’ll work to reduce further risk, discuss what’s happened, offer initial support and safety planning, and direct you to organisations that can help further.
Need help or support?
Not sure where to start? Whatever’s happening, in whatever relationship, we’re here for you.
Find national service
If you need to speak to someone right now, these national helplines are free and confidential, day or night. The National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge, is open 24/7. Choose the right number below and reach out whenever you’re ready.
National Domestic Abuse Helpline (Refuge)
0808 2000 247National Stalking Helpline
0808 802 0300Galop — National LGBT+ Domestic Abuse Helpline
0800 999 5428Men’s Advice Line
0800 995 6999
Frequently asked questions
Still have questions? Here are some of the things people ask us most often before getting in touch. If you can’t find what you’re looking for, just ask us directly.
Is Equation’s support LGBTQ+ inclusive?
Yes. We’re an LGBTQ+ specialist domestic abuse service, supporting all LGBTQ+ identities aged 16 and over in Nottingham city, and 18 and over in Nottinghamshire county. You’ll be treated with understanding, never judgement.
How do I get help quickly?
Call our helpline, or if you’re in immediate danger, call 999 — this is available any time and is always free to call. Our men’s helpline is 0800 995 6999, or our LGBTQ+ helpline 03300 880787. We’re here Monday to Friday, 9.30am to 4.30pm (7.30pm Wednesdays) – 24/7 answerphone outside these times.
What happens when I call the helpline?
A trained, compassionate advisor will listen without judgement. If we’re busy, you will need to leave a safe number and a good time to call — someone will always call you back.
Can I get help if I’m not sure it’s abuse?
Yes. If you’re not sure what you’re experiencing is abuse, we have a guide to help you recognise the signs — and you’re welcome to talk to us either way.
What should I expect if I call the police?
Their priority is your safety of you (and your children). They’ll aim to protect you, reduce the risk of further violence, investigate what happened, offer initial support and safety planning, and direct you to further help.
Does abuse in LGBTQ+ relationships look different?
It can. Alongside the abuse anyone might experience, LGBTQ+ people can also face threats to “out” them, deliberate misgendering or deadnaming, and having their HIV status used against them. All of this is abuse, and support is available.
Do I have to give my name?
No. You don’t have to give your real name, and you can choose to share as much or as little as you like.
What if I’m planning to stay, not leave?
That’s okay. Whether you’re planning to leave or planning to stay, we can help you keep yourself, your children, and even your pets as safe as possible.
What if I’m worried about someone else?
You can call us about a friend, family member, or colleague. If you’re unsure what to do, talk to us and we’ll help you think it through.